My personal experience in small groups, whether as a participant or someone in leadership, has been transformative. My background has moulded me to be resistant to trust, to engage with others. I suspect that this is connected with a sense of vulnerability and the need, in turn, to ensure that I remain in control. The need for control, however, is not so much connected with the need to direct others, as much as it is to ensure that I remain in the ‘driver’s seat.’